Several times a week I receive emails or comments from readers. Often, the person is reaching out, looking for help or support. Most of the time, it is the spouse or another loved one who makes contact on behalf of another. Last night I received a heartfelt request from a young woman whose husband was recently diagnosed with Kennedy's Disease. Below is a portion of my response to her. I post this hoping it might also help others.
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The early
years of Kennedy's Disease are the worst. Acceptance is difficult. You keep
hoping and praying this is a mistake. You hide the changes that are going on in
your life; often from even the ones you love the most. You constantly worry
about losing the respect of others because you are no longer able or capable.
Pride is a terrible adversary.
Worst of
all, you believe you are letting down the ones you love. You are supposed to be
the one who takes care of your spouse and your children. You visualize what you
will be like in the future as the disease progresses and it crushes your hope.
It becomes a constant battle of mind and emotions. And, all you do is make
matters worse. You feel alone and isolated from the world you knew and loved.
Forty years
of living with Kennedy's Disease affords me the opportunity to share with
others that there is a life still worth living. Many of the fears I harbored in
my thirties never came true in the way I envisioned them.
Living with
Kennedy's Disease is a growth opportunity. You learn not to take things for
granted and to be joyful and thankful for this wonderful life you have. You
discover things about yourself that you never would have imagined prior to
Kennedy's Disease. Since you read my blog, you know how important my gratitude
journal is to me. It is my way of giving thanks for those special moments each
day.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Those of us living with
Kennedy's Disease are a family. We care about each other and we share our
learnings and experiences. I have learned so much from my KD brothers. And,
during my darkest hours, they lifted me up and helped me move forward.
My most
important learning was life doesn't end with Kennedy's Disease. It just
progresses in a different direction.
Before I
end, I need to remind you that a spouse also has a difficult path ahead. The
spouse often is the recipient of the anger, frustration and moods of the
husband. My wife is my greatest blessing. She is there when I need help. She
steps aside when I need to do something for myself; even if it means I will
fail. She learned that living with Kennedy's Disease is not just something the
husband goes through.